Got married!
I got married in September 2010 with a great woman.
Today is September 1, 2015 and I'm still happily married.
Yes, I we found each other on JDate.
What is my recipe?
1.- Relax: JDate is shopping without obligation of buying anything.
2.- Relax: Not too much effort.
3.- Relax: Make your profile short (mine finally was only two lines).
4.- Relax: Your bad experiences on JDate are common.
My wife's one-line recipe:
Watch out for Latin American hotties, especially Mexicans with 48.2 centimeters schlongs.
Tuesday, September 1, 2015
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE or…“How going on a date did the impossible and made this movie worse than it truly is”
Although I’ve been making myself too available as of late, I was reviewing Jdate profiles when a rather petite woman caught my eye (even though I prefer taller ones, since they are easier to find in a crowded market). She was in the right age range (46), doesn’t want to have children and lives in L.A.
I sent her a custom e-mail, introducing myself, telling her the things I liked about her profile and asked a simple question, with the hope that by doing so, she’d send me an answer.
I didn’t receive a reply for 2 weeks. But the day after the Oscar awards, she started to chat with me and said that she wanted to see Slumdog Millionaire.
I reviewed the various theaters and schedules and called her in order to ask which theater and show times she preferred. She said an afternoon show would suit her and that I should pick her up (which is extremely bizarre for a first date), and that we should get a bite to eat before the show.
Saying nothing and knowing my ego has no limits, I quickly rationalized the situation:
She’s already got confidence in me due to my ability to make clever conversation!
I picked her up the next day (turns out she lives 2 blocks from my house) and we were on our way. Arriving at a nearby kosher restaurant, I was parking the car when she told me we needed to hurry up and skip the lunch, because she said the movie would be starting very soon (1 hour and 30 minutes ?).
I didn’t want to contradict her sense of timing so I drove to the theater and asked if she’d mind eating a salad at place in the mall where the theatre is. It seems she eats strictly kosher so she said no to the salad idea. Instead, she decided to have some ice-cream.
I bought the tickets, having arrived at the theatre one hour before show-time and noticed that a “Pink Berry Creamery” ice-cream store was also in the mall. She tasted samples of the three, featured flavors of the day - she didn’t like any of them. Then we walked around a little and found another ice-cream shop.
She asked the employee how many more flavors she could sample. The employee was very surprised with her question, but said there was no limit.
She started sampling each ice-cream. After sample 15, she asked the employee if there were any she may have missed. He was very helpful and went to the back of the store to get some additional flavors. The sampling continued… after having tasted no less than 25 flavors she said that although she couldn’t remember the flavors, she was sure she liked the second and the fifth. Of course the employee didn’t remember, so she had to start the tasting process all over again.
After what seemed to be an eon of tasting, she actually made a decision. I ordered the same in order to make things “simpler”.
We sat down at a table and had the following dialog:
“In Jdate there are a lot of non-Jewish people,” she said.
“It’s true,” I replied. “But who can say with 100% certainty, who is a Jew or not?”
She curled up her lip in a slightly indignant way. “Some of them for sure are not Jewish.”
“Yes,” I said.
“Jdate is a Jewish site, why don’t these women look in another place, like E-Harmony or somewhere else?”
“I don’t really know, but why do you want Jdate to lose customers?” I said, hoping
to appease her.
“I’m a Jewish woman and I want a Jewish man. Other women are using Jdate, and they are getting the Jewish men – it’s not fair.”
Not wanting to offend her, I said, “You’re right,” but I was really thinking…what if the government let businesses do as they pleased?... monopoles would certainly be the order of the day.
“You know,” she said, “I dated a man whose profile said that he is ‘mixed ethnic’. He told me his mother was Jewish, but after a while I noted some anti-Semitic behavior.”
“Wooah!” I exclaimed.
“3 days ago, I called him and he told me…” her voice started to tremble.
“What did he tell you?” I said as I kind of cleared my throat.
She began to cry. I felt people were watching me - wondering to themselves – what did that man do to this little lady?
“I’m sorry I asked that question,” I told her simultaneously realizing that perhaps it would be best to say no more. My ego was rapidly deflating… for sure the reason she decided to give me her address was because she had become very desperate after her previous “anti-Semitic” date.
After 5 minutes of continuous crying she suddenly stopped herself, as though she hadn’t shed a tear. “Ok, let’s go see the movie,” she said.
Although the theatre was close by, I realized it was a good thing that we came to the mall early. Working up to a good cry can take quite a bit of preparation.
I thought I had suffered enough to last me at least one week, but soon after the movie started I knew I was wrong. Maybe I had some karma to work-off with the producers because …well, suffice to say, I can’t recommend this movie to anyone - it’s unnecessarily violent, the plot is ridiculous, and the characters are flat.
After ten minutes I decided that I had to find a way to leave, but of course, at the moment that I made that decision, she looked at me and whispered, “It’s Terrific No?”
Now I can’t go to anywhere. Even when I closed my eyes the actors were overacting, yelling and crying - impossible to leave.
I gave up trying to flee as the light from my conscious transcended my thoughts - This is the pain I have created and in fact need to move beyond, to move through the karma with the producers, through her.
Two hours later the movie ended, the date almost finished. I was very happy to bring her home, to her apartment, where I had first picked her-up.
By the time I finally went to sleep – by myself (thank goodness), I realized that I’m really a very happy man to be as yet, unmarried to the wrong woman.
I sent her a custom e-mail, introducing myself, telling her the things I liked about her profile and asked a simple question, with the hope that by doing so, she’d send me an answer.
I didn’t receive a reply for 2 weeks. But the day after the Oscar awards, she started to chat with me and said that she wanted to see Slumdog Millionaire.
I reviewed the various theaters and schedules and called her in order to ask which theater and show times she preferred. She said an afternoon show would suit her and that I should pick her up (which is extremely bizarre for a first date), and that we should get a bite to eat before the show.
Saying nothing and knowing my ego has no limits, I quickly rationalized the situation:
She’s already got confidence in me due to my ability to make clever conversation!
I picked her up the next day (turns out she lives 2 blocks from my house) and we were on our way. Arriving at a nearby kosher restaurant, I was parking the car when she told me we needed to hurry up and skip the lunch, because she said the movie would be starting very soon (1 hour and 30 minutes ?).
I didn’t want to contradict her sense of timing so I drove to the theater and asked if she’d mind eating a salad at place in the mall where the theatre is. It seems she eats strictly kosher so she said no to the salad idea. Instead, she decided to have some ice-cream.
I bought the tickets, having arrived at the theatre one hour before show-time and noticed that a “Pink Berry Creamery” ice-cream store was also in the mall. She tasted samples of the three, featured flavors of the day - she didn’t like any of them. Then we walked around a little and found another ice-cream shop.
She asked the employee how many more flavors she could sample. The employee was very surprised with her question, but said there was no limit.
She started sampling each ice-cream. After sample 15, she asked the employee if there were any she may have missed. He was very helpful and went to the back of the store to get some additional flavors. The sampling continued… after having tasted no less than 25 flavors she said that although she couldn’t remember the flavors, she was sure she liked the second and the fifth. Of course the employee didn’t remember, so she had to start the tasting process all over again.
After what seemed to be an eon of tasting, she actually made a decision. I ordered the same in order to make things “simpler”.
We sat down at a table and had the following dialog:
“In Jdate there are a lot of non-Jewish people,” she said.
“It’s true,” I replied. “But who can say with 100% certainty, who is a Jew or not?”
She curled up her lip in a slightly indignant way. “Some of them for sure are not Jewish.”
“Yes,” I said.
“Jdate is a Jewish site, why don’t these women look in another place, like E-Harmony or somewhere else?”
“I don’t really know, but why do you want Jdate to lose customers?” I said, hoping
to appease her.
“I’m a Jewish woman and I want a Jewish man. Other women are using Jdate, and they are getting the Jewish men – it’s not fair.”
Not wanting to offend her, I said, “You’re right,” but I was really thinking…what if the government let businesses do as they pleased?... monopoles would certainly be the order of the day.
“You know,” she said, “I dated a man whose profile said that he is ‘mixed ethnic’. He told me his mother was Jewish, but after a while I noted some anti-Semitic behavior.”
“Wooah!” I exclaimed.
“3 days ago, I called him and he told me…” her voice started to tremble.
“What did he tell you?” I said as I kind of cleared my throat.
She began to cry. I felt people were watching me - wondering to themselves – what did that man do to this little lady?
“I’m sorry I asked that question,” I told her simultaneously realizing that perhaps it would be best to say no more. My ego was rapidly deflating… for sure the reason she decided to give me her address was because she had become very desperate after her previous “anti-Semitic” date.
After 5 minutes of continuous crying she suddenly stopped herself, as though she hadn’t shed a tear. “Ok, let’s go see the movie,” she said.
Although the theatre was close by, I realized it was a good thing that we came to the mall early. Working up to a good cry can take quite a bit of preparation.
I thought I had suffered enough to last me at least one week, but soon after the movie started I knew I was wrong. Maybe I had some karma to work-off with the producers because …well, suffice to say, I can’t recommend this movie to anyone - it’s unnecessarily violent, the plot is ridiculous, and the characters are flat.
After ten minutes I decided that I had to find a way to leave, but of course, at the moment that I made that decision, she looked at me and whispered, “It’s Terrific No?”
Now I can’t go to anywhere. Even when I closed my eyes the actors were overacting, yelling and crying - impossible to leave.
I gave up trying to flee as the light from my conscious transcended my thoughts - This is the pain I have created and in fact need to move beyond, to move through the karma with the producers, through her.
Two hours later the movie ended, the date almost finished. I was very happy to bring her home, to her apartment, where I had first picked her-up.
By the time I finally went to sleep – by myself (thank goodness), I realized that I’m really a very happy man to be as yet, unmarried to the wrong woman.
Monday, March 2, 2009
Date with Rain Check.
She: Russian, 42 years, pretty, a daughter in College.
Her profile said that she had a strong accent. She was very kind in the email exchange; then following internet dating protocol, she called me. I understood very little about the things that she told over the phone, but we were able to arranged a meeting on Coffee Beans near her house.
That day the traffic was very light and I arrived 30 minutes earlier. I went to the market to buy flowers. I thought: What flowers will I buy? Very expensive, are not good choice for first date, girl would think that I want to buy her quickly, and I need to show that I’m not searching for a buy and dispose woman, but for establish a long customer-vendor relationship. This is not a cash sale. How do you buy something that you don’t know what really is?
For sure she will think that you aren’t interested in the real person, (What is the real person? Please stop thinking and buy the flowers.)
Then I needed to make a nice down payment flowers, no expensive, but it will show that I will take care about my compromises. After a hard decision time, I choose one single dark red flower with a long stem.
I selected a table in the Coffee Beans. She arrived. Wow. She is pretty! She seated and starts talk, Wow. It’s very hard to understand (Why my grand mother didn’t talk me in Russian?) But she is pretty and how she speaks remembered me a secret KGB Russian agent from old 007 movie.
... then she is working on the space engineering field (with calculus of something that I didn’t understand), she studied on Russia engineering and there, at that time, they didn’t have computers available and she was very bad for drawing, then she exchanged french fries for drawing services, in Russia she needed to made french fries from scratch. Wow! She knows how to do French Fries.
She told me that she was interesting on me (she was really direct) and we arrange another date for the weekend. We exchanged some nice emails, and suddenly she stopped to reply. I called her and left a message.
Three days later I received an email that she kindly said that she started a relationship with a guy that she meet outside Jdate, and she was sorry but he gets she in her toes, she was now out of Jdate. I thought… bad news, she is pretty and has the knowledge how to do french fries, but after a while… how long this new relationship will be sustained. She is not 20 years old, she is exited, but she really doesn’t know the guy. My children will visit me for vacations for a month. What is the probability that her new relationship will be a medium-long term relationship? 10%? 5%? I thought that is less than 1%. Then I replied her with congratulations for be in a relationship and I wrote in the same email the following Rain Check coupon:
---------------------------------
Date: 12/15/08
Rain Check Coupon
For a Second Date
Valid from 01/25/09
to : 01/31/09
______________________
Explaining her that one month later she will know if this new relationship is stable or not, then she would use the coupon or discard it. She called back (she had deleted her Jdate account) thanked for the coupon. The month passed very quickly. On Jan/25 I send a note to her cell that the coupon is still valid. She replied that this day is his birthday. Ok. …, then It’s not a very short term relationship. It is interesting ...then we can get quickly and without effort good life things.
But after 2 weeks I saw her profile active again in Jdate site, I wrote her, but she wrote me back: she was hurt and she doesn’t want to get any serious relationship, because she is afraid to be hurt again. For sure, she thought about and I wasn’t viewed as good candidate for her, but she was sweet. Was a good first date after all.
Her profile said that she had a strong accent. She was very kind in the email exchange; then following internet dating protocol, she called me. I understood very little about the things that she told over the phone, but we were able to arranged a meeting on Coffee Beans near her house.
That day the traffic was very light and I arrived 30 minutes earlier. I went to the market to buy flowers. I thought: What flowers will I buy? Very expensive, are not good choice for first date, girl would think that I want to buy her quickly, and I need to show that I’m not searching for a buy and dispose woman, but for establish a long customer-vendor relationship. This is not a cash sale. How do you buy something that you don’t know what really is?
For sure she will think that you aren’t interested in the real person, (What is the real person? Please stop thinking and buy the flowers.)
Then I needed to make a nice down payment flowers, no expensive, but it will show that I will take care about my compromises. After a hard decision time, I choose one single dark red flower with a long stem.
I selected a table in the Coffee Beans. She arrived. Wow. She is pretty! She seated and starts talk, Wow. It’s very hard to understand (Why my grand mother didn’t talk me in Russian?) But she is pretty and how she speaks remembered me a secret KGB Russian agent from old 007 movie.
... then she is working on the space engineering field (with calculus of something that I didn’t understand), she studied on Russia engineering and there, at that time, they didn’t have computers available and she was very bad for drawing, then she exchanged french fries for drawing services, in Russia she needed to made french fries from scratch. Wow! She knows how to do French Fries.
She told me that she was interesting on me (she was really direct) and we arrange another date for the weekend. We exchanged some nice emails, and suddenly she stopped to reply. I called her and left a message.
Three days later I received an email that she kindly said that she started a relationship with a guy that she meet outside Jdate, and she was sorry but he gets she in her toes, she was now out of Jdate. I thought… bad news, she is pretty and has the knowledge how to do french fries, but after a while… how long this new relationship will be sustained. She is not 20 years old, she is exited, but she really doesn’t know the guy. My children will visit me for vacations for a month. What is the probability that her new relationship will be a medium-long term relationship? 10%? 5%? I thought that is less than 1%. Then I replied her with congratulations for be in a relationship and I wrote in the same email the following Rain Check coupon:
---------------------------------
Date: 12/15/08
Rain Check Coupon
For a Second Date
Valid from 01/25/09
to : 01/31/09
______________________
Explaining her that one month later she will know if this new relationship is stable or not, then she would use the coupon or discard it. She called back (she had deleted her Jdate account) thanked for the coupon. The month passed very quickly. On Jan/25 I send a note to her cell that the coupon is still valid. She replied that this day is his birthday. Ok. …, then It’s not a very short term relationship. It is interesting ...then we can get quickly and without effort good life things.
But after 2 weeks I saw her profile active again in Jdate site, I wrote her, but she wrote me back: she was hurt and she doesn’t want to get any serious relationship, because she is afraid to be hurt again. For sure, she thought about and I wasn’t viewed as good candidate for her, but she was sweet. Was a good first date after all.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Why design a dating campaign is different than design a collection campaign and why I hate Tools Bars for Internet Explorer
Part of my job is related with collection's operations, helping with the design and the technology. Actually Collection has a sophisticated set of procedures that includes an intensive use of dialers, computers, searching engines and trained people.
The dialer calls each delinquent customer with a personalized voice of the collector in charge of that account. Collectors have their days off, but the computer hasn’t, it’s programmed to call whenever the collectors are or aren’t working. Sometimes it’s pretty difficult for customer distinguish when he is called for a real human being or a machine. When customer return the call, collectors don’t tell him that he was called by a machine. People feel little compromise to pay when they know that a machine/system is worry about their debts. Maybe this is the reason that the most of the religions need to have a live G-d, the most sucessful ones have G-d with a direct involvement with human life, probably a religion witch postulate that G-d created the perfect Universe System and then He toke eternal vacation in some exotic place wouldn’t has too much people interested.
Then with all this experience, I thought: How Can I apply it to get a real good relationship?
Call people … not very good, first I don’t have their numbers… What things do Jdate’s members when they logon on the Jdate site?
First they check their email… The idea to send personalized emails every week, or every 2 weeks, isn’t very attractive. People have bad feelings with the SPAM, these activities will get bad responses.
What other thing a typical woman do when she enter to Jdate site?... She check who was looking her profile. (Note: Every time that a Jdate member read the profile of other member this activity is register and in this way every member can know who was looking his/her profile. This option can be disabled but very few people do that).
People that was looking her profile appears ordered by date, then the most recent is in the top of the list; if a man look a woman profile three days ago, and she it's pretty probably she never knows that he was looking her;
Why? because others men look after him her profile and he will not appear in her first page. But if after the three days he looks her profile again he will be the first place and his previous viewing history will be discarded. (Then if he review her profile 20 times, he will appear only once in the her list).
People pay a lot to Google for be in the first page...
How can I position my profile always in the first place on her list?
One method is a manual method, click the profile every 5 minutes, but It’s boring and I want to do others things in my life. Then I need some program that enter to Jdate site with my account and password search the desired woman profile, look into it and then search another look into her profile, and then another… and repeat the process from the the first. The program was easy to make. And I had a unused PC in my house, for dedicate it do this process all day long.
I selected 50 woman profiles (for get some result we need to work on relative large population), and I wrote their accounts numbers in a list, and the process started.
The first two days were good. I get a much more women interested in my profile than before. The first signal of problems arises three days later. One pretty woman was asking why I viewing her profile so frequently. I remember the collection rule, never said that is a machine. I told that I was interested in her (that is also true). A day later the same woman asked again the same. I was in my office and I told her that from tomorrow I will not review her profile again… (It's like the Do No Call List allowed 24 hours for be deleted from the list). But 10 minutes later she wrote me very angry…Please stop to view my profile. What happen? Why she was so angry? I realized this is a technical matter: she installed the Jdate Tool Bar for Internet Explorer. This Tool Bar send an alert every time that one is looking your profile, and the dedicated computer in my house was looking her profile every five minutes, she was receiving alert every five minutes! I apologized and removed her from the list. But after that I got a lot of complains for the same reason. Is incredible how many people installed the Jdate Tool Bar. I turned off the dedicated PC.
Conclusion, if the technical thing doesn’t work, the commercial thing has really a little opportunity.
The dialer calls each delinquent customer with a personalized voice of the collector in charge of that account. Collectors have their days off, but the computer hasn’t, it’s programmed to call whenever the collectors are or aren’t working. Sometimes it’s pretty difficult for customer distinguish when he is called for a real human being or a machine. When customer return the call, collectors don’t tell him that he was called by a machine. People feel little compromise to pay when they know that a machine/system is worry about their debts. Maybe this is the reason that the most of the religions need to have a live G-d, the most sucessful ones have G-d with a direct involvement with human life, probably a religion witch postulate that G-d created the perfect Universe System and then He toke eternal vacation in some exotic place wouldn’t has too much people interested.
Then with all this experience, I thought: How Can I apply it to get a real good relationship?
Call people … not very good, first I don’t have their numbers… What things do Jdate’s members when they logon on the Jdate site?
First they check their email… The idea to send personalized emails every week, or every 2 weeks, isn’t very attractive. People have bad feelings with the SPAM, these activities will get bad responses.
What other thing a typical woman do when she enter to Jdate site?... She check who was looking her profile. (Note: Every time that a Jdate member read the profile of other member this activity is register and in this way every member can know who was looking his/her profile. This option can be disabled but very few people do that).
People that was looking her profile appears ordered by date, then the most recent is in the top of the list; if a man look a woman profile three days ago, and she it's pretty probably she never knows that he was looking her;
Why? because others men look after him her profile and he will not appear in her first page. But if after the three days he looks her profile again he will be the first place and his previous viewing history will be discarded. (Then if he review her profile 20 times, he will appear only once in the her list).
People pay a lot to Google for be in the first page...
How can I position my profile always in the first place on her list?
One method is a manual method, click the profile every 5 minutes, but It’s boring and I want to do others things in my life. Then I need some program that enter to Jdate site with my account and password search the desired woman profile, look into it and then search another look into her profile, and then another… and repeat the process from the the first. The program was easy to make. And I had a unused PC in my house, for dedicate it do this process all day long.
I selected 50 woman profiles (for get some result we need to work on relative large population), and I wrote their accounts numbers in a list, and the process started.
The first two days were good. I get a much more women interested in my profile than before. The first signal of problems arises three days later. One pretty woman was asking why I viewing her profile so frequently. I remember the collection rule, never said that is a machine. I told that I was interested in her (that is also true). A day later the same woman asked again the same. I was in my office and I told her that from tomorrow I will not review her profile again… (It's like the Do No Call List allowed 24 hours for be deleted from the list). But 10 minutes later she wrote me very angry…Please stop to view my profile. What happen? Why she was so angry? I realized this is a technical matter: she installed the Jdate Tool Bar for Internet Explorer. This Tool Bar send an alert every time that one is looking your profile, and the dedicated computer in my house was looking her profile every five minutes, she was receiving alert every five minutes! I apologized and removed her from the list. But after that I got a lot of complains for the same reason. Is incredible how many people installed the Jdate Tool Bar. I turned off the dedicated PC.
Conclusion, if the technical thing doesn’t work, the commercial thing has really a little opportunity.
Dating a married woman.
She: Russian, no picture, in the right age range, with 2 kids.
We met at Cheese Cake Factory. She was a blond-hair, 48 year- old woman who looked nice.
We sat at one of the tables and she asked me why I had divorced my ex wife. (Ouch she was not too polite) … I told her that through the years we had changed, developed different interest and grown apart… I also told her we were not longer happy together. and we both thought it was the time for change.
She reacted to my explanation as if were from another planet.
Then, the following dialog was exchanged:
She: I’m separated because my husband found a younger woman.
I: Yes this is a valid reason for you to want to separate.
She: I did trusted my husband so when he told me he was going out with some friends I believed him.
I: sure.
She: But he was lying. I asked his parents for help. But they didn’t help me. They said that was all my fault because I have realized the infidelity issue too late.
I: mmm..
She: And she is a non Jewish 29-year old woman.
I: mmm
She: How he could choose a non Jewish woman.
I: I don’t know.
She: I have two sons; a 22 years old and the other 8 years old. I don’t allow them to visit his father. I wouldn't like him to introduce her into the family.
The waitress finally came over and we ordered lunch (I ordered the same salad she ordered).
I: (Thinking this break was great).
She: But he gets this non Jewish girl.
I: (…Thinking: Something is going wrong with this date…) Please tell me how long have you been separated?
She: 2 months.. I warned him: If you leave the house I will find someone else.
I: (… thinking: then I’m that " someone else"…). Why did you come to the States?
She: For better opportunities, but now my husband is gone.
I: I’m sorry about that. (Then I noticed she is wearing her wedding ring..). Why are you still wearing your wedding ring?
She: Because I’m married, If he would ask me again I would accept him back home now.
We finished our lunch.
I: (… then I’m that someone else …only a temporary replacement, for the time being ). I’m very sorry but I wouldn’t feel comfortable dating a woman who would still accept her ex- husband coming back to her.
She: I will get a new lover before 8 months.
I: (… she is pretty… but I can’t …) Why do you take your time? Who is rushing you ? It’s very easy to make the wrong choice when the situation isn’t clear.
She: How will I tell my 22 year old son old to find a Jewish girlfriend, if his own father did such a crazy thing?
I: (thinking: How would her children react if they got a father replacement so quickly?) Sometimes children learn to do the right thing once they realize the mistakes made by their parents. Then they say: “I will never proceed like my father” (just wishful thinking: because most of the times they will end up doing exactly what their fathers did).
She: Thanks for the date.
We said good bye and the date was over. Unfortunately, I don’t have Ulysses ropes to tie myself to the boat’s mast and don’t want to throw myself and along with her to a sure disaster. Therefore a few days later, when she wanted to start a chat with me again , I told her that she was pretty but I simply could not date a married woman.
We met at Cheese Cake Factory. She was a blond-hair, 48 year- old woman who looked nice.
We sat at one of the tables and she asked me why I had divorced my ex wife. (Ouch she was not too polite) … I told her that through the years we had changed, developed different interest and grown apart… I also told her we were not longer happy together. and we both thought it was the time for change.
She reacted to my explanation as if were from another planet.
Then, the following dialog was exchanged:
She: I’m separated because my husband found a younger woman.
I: Yes this is a valid reason for you to want to separate.
She: I did trusted my husband so when he told me he was going out with some friends I believed him.
I: sure.
She: But he was lying. I asked his parents for help. But they didn’t help me. They said that was all my fault because I have realized the infidelity issue too late.
I: mmm..
She: And she is a non Jewish 29-year old woman.
I: mmm
She: How he could choose a non Jewish woman.
I: I don’t know.
She: I have two sons; a 22 years old and the other 8 years old. I don’t allow them to visit his father. I wouldn't like him to introduce her into the family.
The waitress finally came over and we ordered lunch (I ordered the same salad she ordered).
I: (Thinking this break was great).
She: But he gets this non Jewish girl.
I: (…Thinking: Something is going wrong with this date…) Please tell me how long have you been separated?
She: 2 months.. I warned him: If you leave the house I will find someone else.
I: (… thinking: then I’m that " someone else"…). Why did you come to the States?
She: For better opportunities, but now my husband is gone.
I: I’m sorry about that. (Then I noticed she is wearing her wedding ring..). Why are you still wearing your wedding ring?
She: Because I’m married, If he would ask me again I would accept him back home now.
We finished our lunch.
I: (… then I’m that someone else …only a temporary replacement, for the time being ). I’m very sorry but I wouldn’t feel comfortable dating a woman who would still accept her ex- husband coming back to her.
She: I will get a new lover before 8 months.
I: (… she is pretty… but I can’t …) Why do you take your time? Who is rushing you ? It’s very easy to make the wrong choice when the situation isn’t clear.
She: How will I tell my 22 year old son old to find a Jewish girlfriend, if his own father did such a crazy thing?
I: (thinking: How would her children react if they got a father replacement so quickly?) Sometimes children learn to do the right thing once they realize the mistakes made by their parents. Then they say: “I will never proceed like my father” (just wishful thinking: because most of the times they will end up doing exactly what their fathers did).
She: Thanks for the date.
We said good bye and the date was over. Unfortunately, I don’t have Ulysses ropes to tie myself to the boat’s mast and don’t want to throw myself and along with her to a sure disaster. Therefore a few days later, when she wanted to start a chat with me again , I told her that she was pretty but I simply could not date a married woman.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
My First Second Date - Too Little Too Late for the Perfect Second Date
It was March 2007. Two weeks before, the first date with her had been as perfunctory as a dental check up. She was a very pretty and very small 42 year old, woman. She asked if I could eat Sushi (with my Kosher restriction at that time), and she sent me the address by email. We arranged to meet on a Tuesday at 7:00 PM.
While I was driving there from my job, I wrote the address on the GPS Navigator, the street Wilshire and the number…? ( It is rather difficult and dangerous to write an address while driving) I found the number … 150. The GPS computer was guiding me: “turn left, turn right“ , I called the girl on her cell phone to tell her I‘d be four minutes late getting there.
Finally the GPS Navigator told me smugly: “You’ve arrived at your destination” I parked the car in an over-priced parking lot and ran to find the restaurant. The place look very nice: I could see the sea and the palms. The street numbers go until 120 and in the next block, it started on 210. In the corner: a restaurant and in the second floor it had a Sushi restaurant. I called her: “I can’t see you” and she told me “Please go outside the restaurant to find me.” I left the restaurant, but I didn’t find her outside. Just then my phone rang: “Where are you? I asked her: “In what direction do you see the sea?” Her: “What sea do you see?
At that moment, I realized that I was not born in the USA-- the real address was 12400 Wilshire Blvd. Ste 150 (in Westwood) , but in Latin America we write the number at the end. Which put me 10 miles west of where she was! I had put a wrong number in the GPS Navigator.. I called her again to apologize and told her I would be there in 20 more minutes.
I returned to my car and put the right number 12400 into the Navigator. The machine told me that the trip would take only 7 minutes. 40 minutes later when I thought I was nearly there, I checked the address but I was only at 12200. A little further the numbers increased so I parked again in another building ran to find the number 12400. After running a few blocks, I realized that in this way I would never arrive to the place. Then I returned to the parking lot, and drove very slowly down the street to find the exact place. Wilshire Blvd. is a street with numbers going up and down in several places. After a lot of U turns I finally arrived, with no help from my Navigator. I parked on a building lower level then the elevator brought me to a huge hall where all 8 doors were locked and an old lady was also lost trying to get the street. I asked G-d if he doesn’t have others funny thing to do, with another person.
Then we searched and found a security guy who simply pushed a button to magically free us
At 8PM I was very tired and found the girl waiting at the restaurant door. She was very mad at me. I apologized again. We ordered the sushi, actually she ordered: she asked what I could eat and ordered for me. She had has good reason to not be very confident in my worldly abilities. She talked initially about kosher food rules. I thought “How I can exit this conversation, and not be classified with the Rabbinical Seal for things that she doesn’t like?” The food arrived. She ordered for herself Sea Urchin (not kosher). I remembered 25 years ago when I ate Sea Urchin for the last time before I became Kosher. While she was eating, I was thinking “If I am able to kiss her anytime, after she eats these things, will her mouth be kosher to kiss?… It would be the rule 1/60 valid in this case (when the no kosher food is less that 1/60 of the main food and the no kosher was included without intention). What quantity of Sea Urchin will remain stuck between her teeth compared to the total volume of her mouth? My calculations went wild.
When the meal ended, the date ended too. Both of us knew that we weren’t a good match. I escorted her to her car. When I was saying good bye I confused her name as I nervously I shook her hand too hard. and she cried and told me that it hurt her (she can’t move her fingers). Then she realized that I was very ashamed, then she became very nice and told me that was not my mistake, only was a problem with her ring.
When I told my brother in law about the date's events, he requested: "Please when you will go to another date take your camrecorder runing all the time, will be better than a Woody Allen movie".
While I was driving there from my job, I wrote the address on the GPS Navigator, the street Wilshire and the number…? ( It is rather difficult and dangerous to write an address while driving) I found the number … 150. The GPS computer was guiding me: “turn left, turn right“ , I called the girl on her cell phone to tell her I‘d be four minutes late getting there.
Finally the GPS Navigator told me smugly: “You’ve arrived at your destination” I parked the car in an over-priced parking lot and ran to find the restaurant. The place look very nice: I could see the sea and the palms. The street numbers go until 120 and in the next block, it started on 210. In the corner: a restaurant and in the second floor it had a Sushi restaurant. I called her: “I can’t see you” and she told me “Please go outside the restaurant to find me.” I left the restaurant, but I didn’t find her outside. Just then my phone rang: “Where are you? I asked her: “In what direction do you see the sea?” Her: “What sea do you see?
At that moment, I realized that I was not born in the USA-- the real address was 12400 Wilshire Blvd. Ste 150 (in Westwood) , but in Latin America we write the number at the end. Which put me 10 miles west of where she was! I had put a wrong number in the GPS Navigator.. I called her again to apologize and told her I would be there in 20 more minutes.
I returned to my car and put the right number 12400 into the Navigator. The machine told me that the trip would take only 7 minutes. 40 minutes later when I thought I was nearly there, I checked the address but I was only at 12200. A little further the numbers increased so I parked again in another building ran to find the number 12400. After running a few blocks, I realized that in this way I would never arrive to the place. Then I returned to the parking lot, and drove very slowly down the street to find the exact place. Wilshire Blvd. is a street with numbers going up and down in several places. After a lot of U turns I finally arrived, with no help from my Navigator. I parked on a building lower level then the elevator brought me to a huge hall where all 8 doors were locked and an old lady was also lost trying to get the street. I asked G-d if he doesn’t have others funny thing to do, with another person.
Then we searched and found a security guy who simply pushed a button to magically free us
At 8PM I was very tired and found the girl waiting at the restaurant door. She was very mad at me. I apologized again. We ordered the sushi, actually she ordered: she asked what I could eat and ordered for me. She had has good reason to not be very confident in my worldly abilities. She talked initially about kosher food rules. I thought “How I can exit this conversation, and not be classified with the Rabbinical Seal for things that she doesn’t like?” The food arrived. She ordered for herself Sea Urchin (not kosher). I remembered 25 years ago when I ate Sea Urchin for the last time before I became Kosher. While she was eating, I was thinking “If I am able to kiss her anytime, after she eats these things, will her mouth be kosher to kiss?… It would be the rule 1/60 valid in this case (when the no kosher food is less that 1/60 of the main food and the no kosher was included without intention). What quantity of Sea Urchin will remain stuck between her teeth compared to the total volume of her mouth? My calculations went wild.
When the meal ended, the date ended too. Both of us knew that we weren’t a good match. I escorted her to her car. When I was saying good bye I confused her name as I nervously I shook her hand too hard. and she cried and told me that it hurt her (she can’t move her fingers). Then she realized that I was very ashamed, then she became very nice and told me that was not my mistake, only was a problem with her ring.
When I told my brother in law about the date's events, he requested: "Please when you will go to another date take your camrecorder runing all the time, will be better than a Woody Allen movie".
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Rejections mails that I received.
Hi , Thank you for contacting me... I enjoyed reading your profile and email...but I think we have a "real-time" communication issue..and I will not be able to meet you. I want to wish you much GOOD LUCK in life and in your search!
good answer..hahaha...but sorry we would not be a match...take care and good luck fishing
Thanks for the warm welcome.... I need to revise my age criteria.... I really am in cougar mode.... I don't think I would date anyone over 40 now, and that's pushing it. I don't want to date any more guys that remember the '60's and give me a hard time for not knowing stuff that happened before I was born (not that you would do that). Good luck. Cheers,
Hi, Thank you for your e-mail. I read your profile but don't see a connection. All the best to you,
Hi, Thank you for your interest in my profile. Unfortunately, it's not a match for me. I wish you well in your search!
....you are totally right, - men and women are very different. I really apologize if your feeling was hurt. I tried to be honest. So I believe that I owe you some explanations. It is very simple. I’m still not healed from my recent relationship and don’t want to get serious at this moment. Imho, it wouldn’t be right to meet again because it might hurt. You’re very sweet guy, and your e-mail about rain-ticket was so touchy. Take care
Thank you for your interest. I am a tall girl and because I often wear heels, I have a height requirement. I hope you'll find what you are looking for.
Hi: Thanks for the note. The woman in the picture with me is my Grandma and I became a vegetarian because I love animals. I'm not sure if you were interested in my profile or just wanted to ask me those questions. If you are, I wanted to thank you very much for your interest but I am on the short side and was looking for someone who was much closer to my height and lived closer by. Sincerely,
thank you for the nice note. i don't think we're a match but i wish you all the best in your search...
Thank you for your note. The fit is wrong for me but I wish you all the best.
Why? Why is adventures of the hearts "usually" viewed as 2 locks and 2 keys??? I find that ridicules and that the word adventure itself does not imply locks or keys. Why should a heart be locked up? Why is it the person of the opposite sex can only be the one to unlock the heart. There are many ways to feel and love and be open to love and life and have nothing to do with locks and keys. I have no idea where you get your ideas from what I wrote but they are definitely coming from you and not me. You are not even close to what I am saying. And I dont care if the guy has ever been married or not. I wish you the best and good luck in your search.
Thanks (-: Have a great day and good luck here
Thank you, but no thank you. My best to you!
Nice to meet you. I host corporate cooking videos. I started seeing someone but thanks for your interes. take care.
Hi, thank you for your email. I looked at your profile and although you seem like a really good person, I can tell that we wouldn't be a match. Best of luck in your search!
Thank you so much for writing - however I don't feel we're a match. Best of luck with your search..
thank you for your interest but i don't think we're a match. best of luck.
I e-mailed you earlier and told you we're not a match. Please stop viewing my profile. Thank you and best of luck.
good luck to yu, ___! my ears?!! that is a first!!
i really do not what you are saying here, but I feel very strongly about this subject. Children, and Young adults in divorce are so damaged at the core level of what could have been a healthy existence, and most adults, parents, ect, refuse to look at it and take fault. It is beyond narcissistic, It is pathetic . I can see thought with your e-mail your attempt to manipulate your words to make it appear as though I know nothing through lack of experience, unfounded. What I do know is who i was raised by, what I do know is my five best friends that two come from divorce and out of the five those are the two that have the most problems. What I do know is that because of my loving aware, giving, selfless parents, I have become the same and wish not to be involved with anyone that cannot be present in love. I am healthy minded and have no desire to fix, rescue, or even be a part of HUMPTY DUMPTY,,, and in los angels? there are so many of these men that the wall they sit on is so full they have to keep building more of them. I do believe you are one of those men. I do believe that your obsessive emails are over the top and shows that you are really just another la guy with baggage and issues.
thank you for the note, but i don't see us as a match. good luck in your search.
sorry, i was looking for someone for you my friend that is closer to your age, 'name' , she is cute, 111-111-1111 good luck on your search
Thank you but I don't think so...I like taller men...
Hi - Thanks for your email, I don't think we're a match.
Hi - thanks for the msg. Ive started dating someone. good luck to you.
Hi, , Thank you for your kind note. I don't think that we are a match, but I'm very flattered for your note. Thanks very much and best of luck to you,
Hi , My friend who is hanging out on my Jdate account noticed you IM'd me...I want to let you know I've started to see someone and I'd like to see how it goes. Best,
Thank you but I am seeing someone right now. Thanks.
Thanks greatly for the contact, - Unfortunately, I don't believe we are a good match - wishing you good luck.
Thanks. for your IM, I do not think we could be a match, courtesy seems to be a lost art so I will conclude with saying goo luck
Thank you for e-mailing me but and speaking Spanish to me but I do not think we are a match.
You have contacted me in the past. If you read my profile you would have seen that I don't respond to IMs. Regardless, although I am flattered, I simply don't think we are a match. Good luck with your pursuit.
Thanks for your questions, I think we have different approaches. Best of luck to you
Noticed you are divorced, have kids and dont drink. I am looking for a man w/o children and who drinks and comes from the planet earth Good luck
sorry. not interested
thanks for the email. I thinkwe are looking for different things. good luck.
Hi, Thanks for your note. I don't think we are a match. I wish you all the best.
.. thank you for the sweet email... but I don't think we are a match... Good Luck with your search.. there is a lucky girl out there for you! Best,
Hi! Thanks for contacting me. After reviewing your profile it seems to me that we would not be a good match for a life-lasting relationship. Best wishes for your happiness!
Thank you for your interest but I don't think we are a match.
thanks for your interest but I don't think we make a good match. no offense and good luck in your search.
Hi, I am 'name', nice to meet you. Can we chat about your profile?-- Reply -- No we can't -- Message - Why? --- Reply --- Because I said so. -- (After that she bloked futher comunications).
Hi , You seem like a very sweet guy. I don't think we're a fit though. I still very much want to have a family and am also looking for someone a bit closer to my age. But I do wish you the best of luck.
Hi: though i think we may not be compatible spiritually i am open to communicating.
Hi, Nice to meet you and thank you for your kind words. I just started seeing someone that I met here on jdate. I am not good at the "dating" scene, I prefer to get to know one person at a time. I appreciate your interest, and if things do not work I will let you knowThanks again
no thanks
thank you for taking the time to read my profile and writing me. I don't think we're a good match, but good luck to you. You seem very nice.
Hi, Thank you for the lovely email, and for actually taking the time to read my entire profile! However, I currently just started dating someone and want to see how it works out before I meet anyone else. I will save you under my "Favorites", and maybe we can meet later.
Yes It's possible to promise eternal love. I found my great love on JDate and I wish you the same. You must believe!!!!!
thank you for your interest, but i am not interested.
Thanks for your note. The fit is not right for me, but I wish you all the very best in your search.
Hi, Thank you for sending me such a nice e-mail, but I recently met someone on JDate and want to give it a chance. Thank you again for taking the time to write to me, and I wish you the best of luck.
Hi,. Thank you for your friendly message. I appreciate your interest but just started dating someone and want to see how it goes. Best of luck in finding a lovely lady--online and off. Regards,
Hi, thank you for your email. Scrabble in Spanish, you WIN!! I am in NY and am travelling quite a bit going forward -- this is an unusually crazy time workwise until the fall. I am not really a great candidate at this moment as I am not really available. I do appreciate your email and effort regardless.
Hi, I don't think we'd be a good match, but I wish you the best.
thank you for your interest- i am currently dating someone. Best
Hi, Thank you for the email, but I don't think that we would be a good match...good luck...
Thank you for your kind e-mail. However, I don't feel that we have enough in common to pursue further communications. The best to you.
thanks for the interest but based on your profile I don't think it's a match. Good luck
Hello ... thank you for your email... I am thinking that you live a bit to far for me thank you
Hi, Thank you so much for your note. At this time I am not interested.
Thanks for your interest, but I don't think we'd be a good match.
You look sweet but unfortuntely we are not for each other. Good luck!
That was so nice of you to write me. I've been otherwise engaged from internet "dating" and am sorry for the delay. Also, after much thought, have decided to try to work things out with my SO. Good luck on this site. I hope you get the fresh start you deserve, and I'm very flattered to be compared to Woody Allen.
Thanks for your note, but I'm afraid I don't think we are a good match. Good luck with your search.
Thanks for the kind words! U 2 sound up beat and positive, but you live too far away! Good luck!
Hello. Thanks for your nice email. Good guess, but he is my brother's son. I appreciate your email and rather than not respond, I wanted to let you know that I don't feel a sense of chemistry here. I'm sure you prefer honesty rather than dishonesty or not receiving a response. Take care and again, thanks for your kind words. Sincerely,
I appreciate your email. Unfortunately, I don't feel there is a match.
thanks for the note - i don't think we would be a good match but i appreciate the contact... and i'm a therapist!! good luck - to all of us!
Hi- Thank you for your email. Although I am flattered, I just don't think we are a match. Good luck in your pursuit.
Thanks, but I don't think we're a match.
"Hi , Appreciate your message. Unfortunately I'm dealing with a seriously ill family member out of state and this is not a good time ÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿÿ‚š"‚*ˆ'd021 0ú‘‘2’ :’B’ J’R’Z’’ ’ b 0100 P Â2007:10:02 "
Gracias pour your message. However, I am leaving Los Angeles (as noted in my profile) and I am not interested in meeting anyone here. Best wishes to you and happy new year.
Thanks, but I don't feel we are a match. Good luck to you.
Hi and thanks for the interest but it isn't a match for me. Best of luck to you..
Hi, thanks for the note.... I am taking a break from dating right now. Good luck to you on your quest...
Thanks for your contact. I don't think we are a match. I do appreciate your contact. Wishing you the very best.
Thanks so much for your kind email. At this time I don't think it's a match. I wish you luck in your search.
Sorry, I never wrote you back. I should have just said that I don't think we'd make a good match. Good luck to you.
I guess I can't pretend I didn't hear you. After looking at your profile I don't think we are a match. However, I do wish you the best of luck. Thanks so much for your reply to my profile.
Hi.... THank you for your message. My kids are in college. I appreciate the compliments but I'm not interested at this time.... Thanks and good luck !!
Thank you for taking the time to say hi. I am flattered at your interest, but I don’t think we’re a match. Best wishes and good luck!
Hello, Thank for writing. However, I would have to decline. Thanks again,
I wish you all the very best with your fresh start... sounds like u deserve it... We all do. I am leaving now for Mexico for a while so its just hard to meet new people for me now, mucho suerte
Hi....thanks for your email....but we have a big age gap. Thanks for connecting....all the best!
Thank you... I wish you the very best...take care
Hello, Sorry I did not respond to you, I am not sure someone who seems to be as religious as you are would be a good combination for me. Although I respect your convictions, I am not at all religious.
thank you for your interest, only, i do not feel that we are a match...only my very best...
Thanks for responding to my questions and telling me more about yourself. I don't think we would make a good match. I can understand why becoming a traditional Jew after years of being an atheist may be attractive. We are all suffering from the alienation of this inhuman world. And we are all trying to find ways to make our lives meaningful. I wish you the best in your search.
Yo hablo muy bien ,...mas o menos. Tengo uno novio ahora,pero gracias. Buena Suerte!
you sound very nice, but for right now I have just started an "exclusive" relationship with someone (from jdate) and am not really dating other people. I wish you luck!
Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we have that much in common. Good luck in your search.
As stated in my profile, if you think it is a long list you are definitively not my type why? because humans have more than 30 characterisitcs to be defined with, otherwise they are a)undefined, while I'm looking for a mature self-assured MAN, b)have such a low level of self esteem that a couple of words get their envy going c)they have a cultural reference of pre-concieved gender stuff that are what I call garbage. As stated in my profile: I know guys who have all that and even more, so as stated in my profile: you had no reason to contact me. bad joke gone awry. got blocked
Thank you, but I don't think we're a match. Best of luck.
Hello! I speak a bit of Spanish but not fluently. I have met someone and I'm pursuing this relationship. I wish you the best of luck. You seem very nice!
Thank you for your message. I admire the changes you made. However, we are not a match. Best wishes in your new country.
Hello, Thank you for your mail, but I am currently dating someone.
Thank you for your e-mail, but I prefer to date men who are taller. Good luck to you.
thanks for the note and in all honesty, I am not comfortable with someone who is so far away from being officially divorced. Good luck with your search and your English. You seem like a very nice man with a lot to offer. Take care.
sorry, I dont date separated man.
Thank you for your kind email and your honesty. I do fear you may not be in the right list for me. I wish you the best of luck in your search.
Thanks, but I don't believe that we're going to be a match. Best of luck in your search all the same and please excuse the delayed response. I ust reoined.
Thanks for your kind note, I am now living in Sydney, Australia at the moment. I wish you all all the best.
You sound like a very nice man, but I'm afraid I don't date men who are separated. I understand your unique situation, but when I meet the right person for the next chapter of my life, I want us to be able to get married, and I wouldn't want to wait so long for that. I hope you find the right person. Blessings,
Thank you for your note, but I feel that we are not a match. While I have no timeline for getting remarried someday, I have had some negative experiences with men who are separated. I hope you can understand. Best wishes to you.
Hello and Happy New Year, I appreciate your taking the time to write and say hello. I am still desiring to have children....crazy as it may sound.... I wish you all the best.
Thank you for the note. Your question is no problem. I would ideally like to have children, and it sounds like you aren't looking to have more kids. I wish you luck in your search. I'm sure you will meet someone wonderful. Take care.
igualmente a usted y a su familia gracias por el e mail pero no creo que hay match entre usted y yo mucha suerte en su busqueda..
'not good enough'. excuse me -- coming from a guy who looks like you, who the hell are you to judge a pretty girl and decide that one of her photos isn't to your liking?? small minded, chauvinistic, and ugly... wonder why you're single at 46. what a schmuck. ;) thank you but plenty of great guys think all the photos are not only attractive, but authentic and REAL. my advice to you is look for someone who might find YOU attractive, stop worrying about the pretty young gals... we don't need your advice. and you're not out of my age range. just my intelligence range. jeez. :) good luck lonely.
Thank you for the nice email, though it was a little hard to understand. Rather than not respond, I wanted to let you know that I don't see a match here but certainly wish you well here on Jdate.
Thank you for such a nice note. I really appreciate what you wrote. I have to be honest that I don't feel this is the right match for me. I hope you understand.
bothering me. I am not interested in you. STOP!
I appreciate your writing me, however I don't feel we'd be compatible. I wish you luck with your search elsewhere.
I think you e-mailed me as it says here on the page however I don't know how to read it. I apolgize however I'm not actually interested in dating currently. I'm doing some research and therefore became a temporary member. Good luck.
You are right, I am not interested. Good luck to you.
Hello, Thanks for the message but I don't feel as if we have a lot in common. I appreciate the note.
Thanks for writing, but I'm not interested. Best of luck to you.
thank you but I am not looking to meet anyone right now...Have fun
Just read your Profile and see that you are separated and not yet divorced. I do not want to date someone who is still legally married. Wishing you all the best of luck.
hi .. i am sorry but i am seeing somebody already ,, but thanks anyways
yes its my "ideal" but, thank you for try.
Thank you so much for contacting me. I don't think we make a good match but I do wish you the best of luck.
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good answer..hahaha...but sorry we would not be a match...take care and good luck fishing
Thanks for the warm welcome.... I need to revise my age criteria.... I really am in cougar mode.... I don't think I would date anyone over 40 now, and that's pushing it. I don't want to date any more guys that remember the '60's and give me a hard time for not knowing stuff that happened before I was born (not that you would do that). Good luck. Cheers,
Hi, Thank you for your e-mail. I read your profile but don't see a connection. All the best to you,
Hi, Thank you for your interest in my profile. Unfortunately, it's not a match for me. I wish you well in your search!
....you are totally right, - men and women are very different. I really apologize if your feeling was hurt. I tried to be honest. So I believe that I owe you some explanations. It is very simple. I’m still not healed from my recent relationship and don’t want to get serious at this moment. Imho, it wouldn’t be right to meet again because it might hurt. You’re very sweet guy, and your e-mail about rain-ticket was so touchy. Take care
Thank you for your interest. I am a tall girl and because I often wear heels, I have a height requirement. I hope you'll find what you are looking for.
Hi: Thanks for the note. The woman in the picture with me is my Grandma and I became a vegetarian because I love animals. I'm not sure if you were interested in my profile or just wanted to ask me those questions. If you are, I wanted to thank you very much for your interest but I am on the short side and was looking for someone who was much closer to my height and lived closer by. Sincerely,
thank you for the nice note. i don't think we're a match but i wish you all the best in your search...
Thank you for your note. The fit is wrong for me but I wish you all the best.
Why? Why is adventures of the hearts "usually" viewed as 2 locks and 2 keys??? I find that ridicules and that the word adventure itself does not imply locks or keys. Why should a heart be locked up? Why is it the person of the opposite sex can only be the one to unlock the heart. There are many ways to feel and love and be open to love and life and have nothing to do with locks and keys. I have no idea where you get your ideas from what I wrote but they are definitely coming from you and not me. You are not even close to what I am saying. And I dont care if the guy has ever been married or not. I wish you the best and good luck in your search.
Thanks (-: Have a great day and good luck here
Thank you, but no thank you. My best to you!
Nice to meet you. I host corporate cooking videos. I started seeing someone but thanks for your interes. take care.
Hi, thank you for your email. I looked at your profile and although you seem like a really good person, I can tell that we wouldn't be a match. Best of luck in your search!
Thank you so much for writing - however I don't feel we're a match. Best of luck with your search..
thank you for your interest but i don't think we're a match. best of luck.
I e-mailed you earlier and told you we're not a match. Please stop viewing my profile. Thank you and best of luck.
good luck to yu, ___! my ears?!! that is a first!!
i really do not what you are saying here, but I feel very strongly about this subject. Children, and Young adults in divorce are so damaged at the core level of what could have been a healthy existence, and most adults, parents, ect, refuse to look at it and take fault. It is beyond narcissistic, It is pathetic . I can see thought with your e-mail your attempt to manipulate your words to make it appear as though I know nothing through lack of experience, unfounded. What I do know is who i was raised by, what I do know is my five best friends that two come from divorce and out of the five those are the two that have the most problems. What I do know is that because of my loving aware, giving, selfless parents, I have become the same and wish not to be involved with anyone that cannot be present in love. I am healthy minded and have no desire to fix, rescue, or even be a part of HUMPTY DUMPTY,,, and in los angels? there are so many of these men that the wall they sit on is so full they have to keep building more of them. I do believe you are one of those men. I do believe that your obsessive emails are over the top and shows that you are really just another la guy with baggage and issues.
thank you for the note, but i don't see us as a match. good luck in your search.
sorry, i was looking for someone for you my friend that is closer to your age, 'name' , she is cute, 111-111-1111 good luck on your search
Thank you but I don't think so...I like taller men...
Hi - Thanks for your email, I don't think we're a match.
Hi - thanks for the msg. Ive started dating someone. good luck to you.
Hi, , Thank you for your kind note. I don't think that we are a match, but I'm very flattered for your note. Thanks very much and best of luck to you,
Hi , My friend who is hanging out on my Jdate account noticed you IM'd me...I want to let you know I've started to see someone and I'd like to see how it goes. Best,
Thank you but I am seeing someone right now. Thanks.
Thanks greatly for the contact, - Unfortunately, I don't believe we are a good match - wishing you good luck.
Thanks. for your IM, I do not think we could be a match, courtesy seems to be a lost art so I will conclude with saying goo luck
Thank you for e-mailing me but and speaking Spanish to me but I do not think we are a match.
You have contacted me in the past. If you read my profile you would have seen that I don't respond to IMs. Regardless, although I am flattered, I simply don't think we are a match. Good luck with your pursuit.
Thanks for your questions, I think we have different approaches. Best of luck to you
Noticed you are divorced, have kids and dont drink. I am looking for a man w/o children and who drinks and comes from the planet earth Good luck
sorry. not interested
thanks for the email. I thinkwe are looking for different things. good luck.
Hi, Thanks for your note. I don't think we are a match. I wish you all the best.
.. thank you for the sweet email... but I don't think we are a match... Good Luck with your search.. there is a lucky girl out there for you! Best,
Hi! Thanks for contacting me. After reviewing your profile it seems to me that we would not be a good match for a life-lasting relationship. Best wishes for your happiness!
Thank you for your interest but I don't think we are a match.
thanks for your interest but I don't think we make a good match. no offense and good luck in your search.
Hi, I am 'name', nice to meet you. Can we chat about your profile?-- Reply -- No we can't -- Message - Why? --- Reply --- Because I said so. -- (After that she bloked futher comunications).
Hi , You seem like a very sweet guy. I don't think we're a fit though. I still very much want to have a family and am also looking for someone a bit closer to my age. But I do wish you the best of luck.
Hi: though i think we may not be compatible spiritually i am open to communicating.
Hi, Nice to meet you and thank you for your kind words. I just started seeing someone that I met here on jdate. I am not good at the "dating" scene, I prefer to get to know one person at a time. I appreciate your interest, and if things do not work I will let you knowThanks again
no thanks
thank you for taking the time to read my profile and writing me. I don't think we're a good match, but good luck to you. You seem very nice.
Hi, Thank you for the lovely email, and for actually taking the time to read my entire profile! However, I currently just started dating someone and want to see how it works out before I meet anyone else. I will save you under my "Favorites", and maybe we can meet later.
Yes It's possible to promise eternal love. I found my great love on JDate and I wish you the same. You must believe!!!!!
thank you for your interest, but i am not interested.
Thanks for your note. The fit is not right for me, but I wish you all the very best in your search.
Hi, Thank you for sending me such a nice e-mail, but I recently met someone on JDate and want to give it a chance. Thank you again for taking the time to write to me, and I wish you the best of luck.
Hi,. Thank you for your friendly message. I appreciate your interest but just started dating someone and want to see how it goes. Best of luck in finding a lovely lady--online and off. Regards,
Hi, thank you for your email. Scrabble in Spanish, you WIN!! I am in NY and am travelling quite a bit going forward -- this is an unusually crazy time workwise until the fall. I am not really a great candidate at this moment as I am not really available. I do appreciate your email and effort regardless.
Hi, I don't think we'd be a good match, but I wish you the best.
thank you for your interest- i am currently dating someone. Best
Hi, Thank you for the email, but I don't think that we would be a good match...good luck...
Thank you for your kind e-mail. However, I don't feel that we have enough in common to pursue further communications. The best to you.
thanks for the interest but based on your profile I don't think it's a match. Good luck
Hello ... thank you for your email... I am thinking that you live a bit to far for me thank you
Hi, Thank you so much for your note. At this time I am not interested.
Thanks for your interest, but I don't think we'd be a good match.
You look sweet but unfortuntely we are not for each other. Good luck!
That was so nice of you to write me. I've been otherwise engaged from internet "dating" and am sorry for the delay. Also, after much thought, have decided to try to work things out with my SO. Good luck on this site. I hope you get the fresh start you deserve, and I'm very flattered to be compared to Woody Allen.
Thanks for your note, but I'm afraid I don't think we are a good match. Good luck with your search.
Thanks for the kind words! U 2 sound up beat and positive, but you live too far away! Good luck!
Hello. Thanks for your nice email. Good guess, but he is my brother's son. I appreciate your email and rather than not respond, I wanted to let you know that I don't feel a sense of chemistry here. I'm sure you prefer honesty rather than dishonesty or not receiving a response. Take care and again, thanks for your kind words. Sincerely,
I appreciate your email. Unfortunately, I don't feel there is a match.
thanks for the note - i don't think we would be a good match but i appreciate the contact... and i'm a therapist!! good luck - to all of us!
Hi- Thank you for your email. Although I am flattered, I just don't think we are a match. Good luck in your pursuit.
Thanks, but I don't think we're a match.
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Gracias pour your message. However, I am leaving Los Angeles (as noted in my profile) and I am not interested in meeting anyone here. Best wishes to you and happy new year.
Thanks, but I don't feel we are a match. Good luck to you.
Hi and thanks for the interest but it isn't a match for me. Best of luck to you..
Hi, thanks for the note.... I am taking a break from dating right now. Good luck to you on your quest...
Thanks for your contact. I don't think we are a match. I do appreciate your contact. Wishing you the very best.
Thanks so much for your kind email. At this time I don't think it's a match. I wish you luck in your search.
Sorry, I never wrote you back. I should have just said that I don't think we'd make a good match. Good luck to you.
I guess I can't pretend I didn't hear you. After looking at your profile I don't think we are a match. However, I do wish you the best of luck. Thanks so much for your reply to my profile.
Hi.... THank you for your message. My kids are in college. I appreciate the compliments but I'm not interested at this time.... Thanks and good luck !!
Thank you for taking the time to say hi. I am flattered at your interest, but I don’t think we’re a match. Best wishes and good luck!
Hello, Thank for writing. However, I would have to decline. Thanks again,
I wish you all the very best with your fresh start... sounds like u deserve it... We all do. I am leaving now for Mexico for a while so its just hard to meet new people for me now, mucho suerte
Hi....thanks for your email....but we have a big age gap. Thanks for connecting....all the best!
Thank you... I wish you the very best...take care
Hello, Sorry I did not respond to you, I am not sure someone who seems to be as religious as you are would be a good combination for me. Although I respect your convictions, I am not at all religious.
thank you for your interest, only, i do not feel that we are a match...only my very best...
Thanks for responding to my questions and telling me more about yourself. I don't think we would make a good match. I can understand why becoming a traditional Jew after years of being an atheist may be attractive. We are all suffering from the alienation of this inhuman world. And we are all trying to find ways to make our lives meaningful. I wish you the best in your search.
Yo hablo muy bien ,...mas o menos. Tengo uno novio ahora,pero gracias. Buena Suerte!
you sound very nice, but for right now I have just started an "exclusive" relationship with someone (from jdate) and am not really dating other people. I wish you luck!
Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we have that much in common. Good luck in your search.
As stated in my profile, if you think it is a long list you are definitively not my type why? because humans have more than 30 characterisitcs to be defined with, otherwise they are a)undefined, while I'm looking for a mature self-assured MAN, b)have such a low level of self esteem that a couple of words get their envy going c)they have a cultural reference of pre-concieved gender stuff that are what I call garbage. As stated in my profile: I know guys who have all that and even more, so as stated in my profile: you had no reason to contact me. bad joke gone awry. got blocked
Thank you, but I don't think we're a match. Best of luck.
Hello! I speak a bit of Spanish but not fluently. I have met someone and I'm pursuing this relationship. I wish you the best of luck. You seem very nice!
Thank you for your message. I admire the changes you made. However, we are not a match. Best wishes in your new country.
Hello, Thank you for your mail, but I am currently dating someone.
Thank you for your e-mail, but I prefer to date men who are taller. Good luck to you.
thanks for the note and in all honesty, I am not comfortable with someone who is so far away from being officially divorced. Good luck with your search and your English. You seem like a very nice man with a lot to offer. Take care.
sorry, I dont date separated man.
Thank you for your kind email and your honesty. I do fear you may not be in the right list for me. I wish you the best of luck in your search.
Thanks, but I don't believe that we're going to be a match. Best of luck in your search all the same and please excuse the delayed response. I ust reoined.
Thanks for your kind note, I am now living in Sydney, Australia at the moment. I wish you all all the best.
You sound like a very nice man, but I'm afraid I don't date men who are separated. I understand your unique situation, but when I meet the right person for the next chapter of my life, I want us to be able to get married, and I wouldn't want to wait so long for that. I hope you find the right person. Blessings,
Thank you for your note, but I feel that we are not a match. While I have no timeline for getting remarried someday, I have had some negative experiences with men who are separated. I hope you can understand. Best wishes to you.
Hello and Happy New Year, I appreciate your taking the time to write and say hello. I am still desiring to have children....crazy as it may sound.... I wish you all the best.
Thank you for the note. Your question is no problem. I would ideally like to have children, and it sounds like you aren't looking to have more kids. I wish you luck in your search. I'm sure you will meet someone wonderful. Take care.
igualmente a usted y a su familia gracias por el e mail pero no creo que hay match entre usted y yo mucha suerte en su busqueda..
'not good enough'. excuse me -- coming from a guy who looks like you, who the hell are you to judge a pretty girl and decide that one of her photos isn't to your liking?? small minded, chauvinistic, and ugly... wonder why you're single at 46. what a schmuck. ;) thank you but plenty of great guys think all the photos are not only attractive, but authentic and REAL. my advice to you is look for someone who might find YOU attractive, stop worrying about the pretty young gals... we don't need your advice. and you're not out of my age range. just my intelligence range. jeez. :) good luck lonely.
Thank you for the nice email, though it was a little hard to understand. Rather than not respond, I wanted to let you know that I don't see a match here but certainly wish you well here on Jdate.
Thank you for such a nice note. I really appreciate what you wrote. I have to be honest that I don't feel this is the right match for me. I hope you understand.
bothering me. I am not interested in you. STOP!
I appreciate your writing me, however I don't feel we'd be compatible. I wish you luck with your search elsewhere.
I think you e-mailed me as it says here on the page however I don't know how to read it. I apolgize however I'm not actually interested in dating currently. I'm doing some research and therefore became a temporary member. Good luck.
You are right, I am not interested. Good luck to you.
Hello, Thanks for the message but I don't feel as if we have a lot in common. I appreciate the note.
Thanks for writing, but I'm not interested. Best of luck to you.
thank you but I am not looking to meet anyone right now...Have fun
Just read your Profile and see that you are separated and not yet divorced. I do not want to date someone who is still legally married. Wishing you all the best of luck.
hi .. i am sorry but i am seeing somebody already ,, but thanks anyways
yes its my "ideal" but, thank you for try.
Thank you so much for contacting me. I don't think we make a good match but I do wish you the best of luck.
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